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Has The DIASPORA done GOOD or HARM for CHILDREN?

Due to the harsh economic conditions in Zimbabwe, some parents have decided to leave for greener pastures to fend for their families. This has dramatically left most children taking guardianship for their siblings because of the disintegration of the long-lost extended family relationships. Even where children under left under the custody of guardians, they will be prone to abuse especially if they are left with people who do not like them. Children who do not stay with their parents have many disadvantages because they will be no-one to physically and morally support them unless if they are lucky to have good hearted guardians.

In instances where children are left alone, there is rarely an elderly person or a guardian to check movement and in the end, there is paramount abuse of freedom. What lingers in the onlookers mind is whether parents understand the vulnerability of children who are left alone to wander in society. Despite that parents have to find means of survival, a question remains as to whether first priority is family or money? If parents leave the country and spend the year away from their children, who is left to shield the kids from the harshness and cruelty of this crazy and lonely world?

Research studies show that children under the ages of 18 years need parental guidance every time because they are not yet mature to make their own decisions. These children need support from elderly people especially their parents who should offer moral support and counsel  so that they become better people who have a great future.

If children are not closely monitored they will end up looking up to wrong role models. They will also end up experimenting on things such as sex, drugs and this leads to moral decadence. Young girls will end up resorting to prostitution as a way of getting money and it can lead to unwanted pregnancies and HIV/AIDS. Boys will also engage in premarital sex and drugs and this will end up in theft activities. At times, children end up having such behaviour because of the kind of material which they will be exposed to especially  the media. Right now, society is bleeding from the wounds of unruly behaviour and if this is allowed to continue, murder cases will be rampant, statistics of unwanted pregnancies and abortions will increase and the killer disease HIV/AIDS will persist.

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Some of these kids have bitterness bottled inside the cores of their hearts. These are sores caused by the absence of parents or wounds resulting from abusive guardians. Studies also prove that these children usually release their anger when they are in the company of peers. This is why at school, they usually are problem children or they suffer from withdrawal symptoms. In class such as, they are stubborn, or they have no respect for teachers, very talkative, bullies or they are too quiet and have low self-esteem. If the children get chances to release their anger, it becomes clear that their actions will be crying volumes for attention. They will be crying for attention which is lacking at home so their actions will be shout out louder. Some of them seem to be carefree and they become heroes and heroines admired by their peers in the class but to the eyes of the mature, it shows that that such kids have deep scars hidden in their hearts.

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A family will be raising kids who live under the rule of a jungle where no one is answerable for his/ her actions. Some of these kids have emotional bankruptcy. Even such children are not God fearing, they spend their nights in clubs or attend almost every live show in town. They can also become very wild because they have not grown up in an environment where they are nurtured by their parents or guardians. These children have difficulty in submitting under authority and they usually put the law into their own hands. Deep inside their hearts, are souls longing for love and if they go through counselling, society will begin to understand that these children have deep wounds they have inside. Some are mentored by immoral people where they empty their emotions and at the end some of these very people will take advantage and sexually abuse the very same kids. At the end, a question will always stay in one’s mind as to where society is directed if such challenges remain.

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Basically, parents should set examples and stay with their own children as they grow up. They should be available to guide their children and inspire them in every decision. Parents can also leave for the diaspora together with their children so that they are present to watch and give with love and guidance. In cases where this might be impossible, then one parent has to go and leave the other with the family to curb the negative effects of lack of parental physical presence.

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